This therapist has the best TikTok video on how to say 'no' to people

Jennifer Savin
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Photo credit: Peathegee Inc/Blend Images - Getty Images
Photo credit: Peathegee Inc/Blend Images - Getty Images

From Cosmopolitan

Okay, so hands up if you're a people pleaser who struggles with saying 'no' to people? Now, put another hand in the air if you also worry about saying 'no' to people and coming off as rude, or upsetting somebody in the process? Two hands in the air? Thought as much. But fear not, as a brilliant therapist named Micheline Maalouf has produced a handy TikTok video of possible polite-but-firm-no responses you can give.

The video has come at the perfect time too, given that the country is working towards lifting coronavirus-related restrictions and people's diaries are, for the first time in a long time, starting to fill up with plans again.

However, while some are rejoicing at the thought of attending gigs, pubs and club nights again, others are feeling more anxious at the thought – meaning they'll be looking for a way to say 'no' without causing any tension with their pals.

Kicking the video off, Micheline says, "Tip from a therapist - how to say no without seeming rude!" before listing off some rather excellent examples which include a simple "No thank you" and "I would love to but I don't have the emotional resources for that".

Ready for some more lines to make a note of? Micheline also advises using the phrases "I don't think that's my kind of thing", "Thank you for asking but it's not really a good time for me" and "Unfortunately I have a lot on my plate at the moment".

In the comments section, Micheline added "Save this! You will need it. This one is for all my people pleasers". The video has already been viewed over 33,000 times, with many TikTok users writing that it has helped them. One even added that they practice saying "No!" with their friends as a group, in order to feel more comfortable with it in future situations (which is an activity that we are in full support of).

So there you have it: a welcome reminder that it's okay to say no if you're feeling overstretched, emotionally depleted or heck, if you just simply don't fancy doing whatever the other person is suggesting!

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