Terrible at flirting on dating apps? This AI wants to help...
Ever struggled to come up with a witty and alluring first message that will make a dating app match instantly fall in love with you?
Well, there’s now an AI for that.
Yep, a London based start-up Elate has launched an AI-powered dating assistant, Dara, and it’s believed to be the first chatbot specifically for dating advice.
According to Elate, Dara is ‘designed to help singles and couples navigate every stage of their dating and relationship journey’ and it offers tools to help you ‘analyse and improve your dating profiles’, as well as date ideas and tips on how to improve communication.
Currently, the main feature available is a chatbot that users can submit questions to for advice, but the team is already working on releasing a messaging tool that will help you craft replies (hopefully quicker than the group chat can).
However, it does come with an important warning. Ahem:
But isn’t it potentially a little thorny, or dare we say inauthentic to be outsourcing your dating dilemmas to be a bot? Won’t they be able to tell? Apparently not, says founder Sanjay Panchal when chatting to Cosmopolitan UK. 'The person you’re talking to will not receive any kind of notification that you are using Dara; we want Dara to be like a trusted friend you can confide in for advice and help. Modern dating has become more complicated and more time-consuming than ever, so we built Dara to be your dating and relationship assistant.'
Panchal hopes that Dara can help people ‘every part of the relationship journey, from organising dates and navigating tricky talking stages, to helping improve communication and bring couples closer’.
He explains that it uses a combination of the technology behind ChatGPT and Elate’s own data to create bespoke answers to your dating queries, much like a coach would – although the company didn’t explain exactly where their own data comes from when pressed (and nor did Dara).
'We keep all personal data private and confidential, so people can feel free to be open and honest,' assures Panchal, 'Over time Dara will get better at remembering what you tell it to further personalise the help and advice it gives you.'
Elate calls itself the ‘anti-ghosting’ app, promising ‘Less swiping, less ghosting, fewer d*ckheads’. You will only ever be shown 10 possible matches per day, and can only have three conversations at a time within the app. To start a new conversation, you must disconnect with another user – and the app will notify you if this happens to you too.
'We wanted to make online dating easier by focusing on serious relationships and quality over quantity,' explains Panchal.
'Dara lets us go even further, by helping people whatever app they use and whatever stage of their relationship journey.'
Below, a few questions sourced from the Cosmopolitan UK office as well as Reddit’s dating advice sub.
First, we asked Dara what it thinks of situationships:
Then, to test its range we queried about long-term relationships:
We also tried to source some of its best non-cheesy chat-up lines – although we don’t know how well any of these would go down in the real world...
Finally, we took onboard some of Dara’s advice about being honest about your feelings and were *respectfully* rebuffed:
So, there you have it. Next time you’re stuck for ideas on how to strike up a conversation with the probably, maybe, definitely Love Of Your Life, or have a burning dating-related query that the group chat can’t help you solve, why not turn to Dara? (Results not guaranteed.)
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