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Sophie Ellis-Bextor: ‘When the work-life balance grinds to a halt, family has to come first’

Sophie, 39, lives in west London with her husband, musician Richard Jones, and children Sonny, 14, Kit, nine, Ray, six, and Jesse, three - Clara Molden for The Telegraph
Sophie, 39, lives in west London with her husband, musician Richard Jones, and children Sonny, 14, Kit, nine, Ray, six, and Jesse, three - Clara Molden for The Telegraph

My family likes to sleep in. Kit might get up at 6.30am to play games, but by 7.30am, the rest of us are often still waking up.

The kids eat something different for breakfast every day – but I’m pathetically loyal to bread with peanut butter and Marmite, and a cup of PG Tips with sugar. I’ve eaten this daily for the last decade. We’re a big family, and about to be even bigger as I’m pregnant with our fifth child (I’m due this month), so breakfast times can be noisy.

My eldest, Sonny, goes off to school at 8.15am and our nanny arrives at around that time. Kit and Ray are in primary school, while Jesse is at nursery, so we divvy up the school run.

My days are varied: I might have an interview or be filming, and we’re also getting work done on the house, but after school, I spend time with the kids.

We listen to music – either Radio 6 or, if they have their way, the Ghostbusters theme tune or the Moana soundtrack – and they dance in the playroom, where there are disco lights and a smoke machine. I usually cook something quick like pasta or Mexican, then we sit down together to eat.

If I have an evening performance in London, I often don’t leave the house until 9.30pm and put the kids to bed first. But I feel like a weird superhero as I change into my costume, set my hair in curlers and apply my false eyelashes (I swear by Ardell Wispies). I do my own hair and make-up, as it’s how I mentally prepare.

My husband, Rich, plays bass in my band, and he played on my new album, so we spend more time together than your average couple. After a show, we’ll watch television to unwind, but often I fall asleep before the end. Tragic!

Sophie’s new album, ‘The Song Diaries’, is released on 15 March

Sophie’s Five life lessons 

  1. Rejection sucks, but once you’ve had things not work out a few times, you’re bolder for it.

  2. There will never be a perfect time to have a baby, so if it’s what you want, go for it.

  3. Trust your instincts, particularly if there is no right or wrong answer.

  4. When the work-life balance grinds to a halt, family has to come first.

  5. I’m a big believer in, if something isn’t  broken, don’t fix it.

My signature scent is...

My signature scent is...
My signature scent is...

Agent Provocateur Signature Parfum. The scent is rose, and it’s neither overwhelming nor too musky. £69 for 100ml 

The album I’m listening to is...

Album
Album

Rumours by Fleetwood Mac. I loved it when I was young, but the emotion is relevant whatever my stage of life.

My make-up bag staple is...

make-up
make-up

Charlotte Tilbury Hollywood Flawless Filter. It makes your skin look dewy. £30

The book I read to my children is...

book
book

The Tiger Who Came to Tea by Judith Kerr. It has a real rhythm, like a good song. £6.99

My go-to app is...

App
App

Citymapper. I’m a big fan of public transport and I also like walking,  so I use this all the time.

My inspiration

Sophie & mum - Credit: GETTY IMAGES
Credit: GETTY IMAGES

My mum, Janet Ellis. She has given me a good life map.