If you're anything like me, you love a personality test. There's nothing better than having a psychological explanation for being the weird/annoying/ridiculous person you are - that's why we're all so deeply obsessed with star signs, right? Well now, it turns out there are also lover personality types, which can explain why we act the way we do in sexual and romantic relationships - and how to improve them, too.
These 12 lover types have been identified by Dr Britney Blair, the psychologist behind a new sexual wellness app called Lover. With her team, Britney has developed a tool on the app that helps people identify which lover type they fall into - and give them personalised recommendations and tips.
To find out which you are, download the app and take the test - or read more about each lover profile below....
The 12 types of lover
Here are the 12 lover types, and which other types they work best with...
What you're like: Reserved, patient and mysterious, you’re a measured lover bubbling underneath.
What you need: To feel connected, supported, and comfortable around a partner is a prerequisite for enjoyable sex. Some might say you’re a picky lover, but for those that know you, the sexual tease and build-up is all part of creating an intense sexual experience.
Your perfect lover: When it comes time to exploring new territory in the bedroom, you’re very curious…and slow to indulge. You’ll only get into bed with someone who is willing to take your needs and desires into account. And for this reason, you’ll typically end up with amazing and kind lovers that know how to satisfy your body and brain.
What you're like: A confident, sexually-charged go-getter, you love nothing more than a good time! An intense lover, with a passion for trying new things and a wild sexual spirit.
What you need: Your sexual freedom allows you to have the sex you want, and it’s easy for others to sense your sexual spirit.
Your perfect lover: You might not be the type of person to have a type, since you can see attraction in many different people. You don't need to be in an established relationship to open up sexually. For you, pleasure comes first.
What you're like: A sexual powerhouse who shows no fear when it comes to exploring sexual avenues - particularly with someone you trust.
What you need: To you, sex is also a bonding and connecting experience, since turning someone on also turns you on.
Your perfect lover: For a long-term partnership to thrive, the Adventurer needs both wild sex and a deep emotional connection. But must first feel safe and secure in their partnership.
What you're like: You thrive within a deeply-connected partnership and will do whatever it takes to create a romantic fairytale.
What you need: You see sex as an extension of a connection you have with someone. Being reserved, it can take time to find a partner you can trust and feel safe with.
Your perfect lover: You never want your lover to feel like a sexual-object, so you take great care to make them feel loved and appreciated. And while you may keep your guard up until you feel really sure about someone, when you do fall, you tend to fall hard.
What you're like: Selfless, generous, and intuitive, you are a wonderful giver in the bedroom.
What you need: To you, nothing is hotter than seeing your partner lost in the throes of passion, and if something isn’t quite clicking, you’re quick to adjust.
Your perfect lover: You appreciate that sex is about being present for each other. But this isn’t just about the physical side, you also want to feel connected to your partner. As such, date nights, mutual devotion and commitment are all necessary for you to feel appreciated.
What you're like: Conscious and open to your own desires, you’re no stranger to erotic materials and fantasy. One of your greatest sexual strengths is your ability to harness the power of your imagination to explore sexual desire and push boundaries.
What you need: Your preference, of course, would be with a partner.
Your perfect lover: Not afraid of risk-taking, or experimenting with yourself, you’re happy to self-pleasure. But, you can be more reserved with others and often need time to feel comfortable before exploring sexual desires with another.
What you're like: Flirtatious, liberated, and fun; sex for you is almost a recreational activity where you create connections with others.
What you need: Sex with new, or multiple, people may be something you invite into your life. Since you’re not afraid of the taboo and are free of judgment, you may pursue sexy experiences. This can lead you to sex clubs, raves, festivals and other hedonistic places.
Your perfect lover: You don’t care what others think of you, so someone to laugh and indulge in the gratification and indulgence of sex with.
What you're like: Faithful, honest, and committed, The Ardent flourishes in a monogamous relationship.
What you need: You feel best when the erotic connection is just between you and your partner, choosing to keep your sexual experiences private.
Your perfect lover: Falling in love and staying in love is a big part of your sexual experience. The way the relationship is structured and how sex happens within that safe space is what turns you on. With the right partner, you enjoy sex on a regular basis and enjoy fantasising and think about sex.
What you're like: A charismatic person, emanating a high sexual energy. You are very expressive with body language and eye contact and tend to use gestures as opposed to words.
What you need: For you, intimacy and connection are about receiving pleasure. You want to be worshipped, desired, loved. You want to be caressed, touched and kissed, fully embracing your role as the receiver of pleasure.
Your perfect lover: You need a partner who is willing to do the majority of the giving in bed, receptive to your direction.
What you're like: A sexual powerhouse. You’re a master of giving pleasure, a great communicator and a confident lover.
What you need: Flirting with something a little taboo, as well as taking things slow and playing it safe.
Your perfect lover: You're naturally dominant, but do however need a partner who you can allow to take charge now and then, to explore new ways of love-making.
What you're like: Although you’re naturally laid-back and reserved, you’re an attentive lover most comfortable in a loving relationship. You’re a considered lover that doesn’t rush into bed with just anyone.
What you need: In addition to receiving pleasure, you love giving your partner what they want. Tuning into their pleasure is how you connect.
Your perfect lover: You naturally take on the role of ‘learner’ to your preferred experienced partner. This feeds in to your desire to feel protected and cared for. And when you meet a receptive partner, this is a great dynamic that works for you both, creating a compelling partnership.
What you're like: To a Sensualist, sex is an intrinsic and important part of life.
What you need: A pleasure-seeker at heart, you enjoy deep sensuality; from massages to cuddling, and kissing to the soft caress of your body.
Your perfect lover: Someone you can get naked, touch and explore with affection and ease with. As such, sex can often be a spiritual other-worldly physical experience for you, something your lovers delight in.
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