Some experts think it’s “confusing” for a parent to give their child a peck on the lips. [Photo: Rex]
You might be surprised to hear that whether or not parents kiss their children on the mouths is a really contentious issue. You, along with thousands of other parents, might kiss your little one on the mouths without even thinking twice. But then again, you may be someone who recoils in horror at the thought of a mother or father doing such a thing.
An article Your Tango has brought the issue to light, revealing that some experts think it’s “too sexual” for a parent to kiss their tot on the lips.
Dr. Charlotte Reznick, author of The Power Of Your Child’s Imagination, says, “The kiss on the lips can be stimulating … It’s just too confusing. If mommy kisses daddy on the mouth and vice versa, what does that mean, when I, a little girl or boy, kiss my parents on the mouth? If I had to answer when to stop kissing your kids on the lips, it would be now.”
Is there an age limit on when a parent should stop kissing their child on the lips? [Photo: Rex]
However, Yahoo UK mum blogger Felicity Hannah explains that kissing her two preschool children on the mouth is perfectly normal and finds it bizarre that other parents are so against it.
“I do agree that it’s intimate, but that’s why it feels so normal with my children,” says Felicity. “The intimacy of a mother and her child is far greater than between two lovers; I have grown my babies, birthed them, breastfed them, bathed them and changed their bottoms. How strange it would seem to then decide mouth kissing is too intimate.
“Of course, if mouth kissing seems to you to be only a sexual thing, then I can completely understand why it makes you uncomfortable when I kiss my children on the lips. But it doesn’t seem that way to me. Yes I kiss my husband on the lips when we’re – what does Mumsnet call it? Baby dancing – but I will also kiss him in passing, when we say goodnight, when he comes home from work and when he surprises me with a cup of tea. Kissing is a sign of friendship to me, of closeness and intimacy. Of course it’s normal for me to kiss my kids too.”
Heidi Klum is another famous mother who isn’t afraid to give her children a kiss on the lips. [Photo: Rex]
Celeb mum Jessica Alba has voiced her opinion on the matter in the past, too. The mum-of-two admitted during an interview with Redbook last year that she sees nothing wrong it and couldn’t believe that some people find it unsual.
“Really?! Why?! It’s your baby. People allow dogs to lick at their mouths,” the 34-year-old actress said.
But at what age does it become inappropriate for a parent to plant a smacker on their child? Bill Belichick, the 62-year-old coach of American football team the New England Patriots caused a stir during February’s Super Bowl when he celebrated his team’s win by kissing his 30-year-old daughter on the mouth.
While some found the sight of the father and daughter sharing a tender moment “creepy”, others lauded the photo as a loving display of family affection.
The sports coach pulled his adult daughter in for a kiss after his big win. [Photo: AP]
But experts agreed that the social media firestorm likely tainted a lovely moment. “I think this is a reach for scandal,” parenting expert and family physician Dr. Deborah Gilboa told Yahoo Parenting. “Being able to show affection between adult parents and their adult kids is lovely, and it’s great if Bill Belichick has such a positive relationship with his daughter.”
Family therapist Dr. Paul Hokemeyer agreed. “This was a moment of jubilation and joy and he is showing his affection for someone who is clearly very important to him,” Hokemeyer said.
“It’s important that parents keep and maintain boundaries with their children, certainly, but in terms of expressing affection this feels within the realm of normal.”
What do you think? Is kissing your child on the mouth weird or normal? Tweet us at @YahooStyleUK.