How to overcome these common limiting beliefs to achieve success

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Photo credit: Constantine Johnny

Limiting beliefs; we all have them, yet sometimes we're not fully aware of them until we start thinking about making a change, or taking that leap towards success.

No matter how much clarity you have on a career choice, how much potential there is in your network, or how compelling your career branding, your limiting beliefs can make you less resilient and also impact desired results.

Below, top life & career coach, Sarah Marshall shares the top 10 limiting beliefs holding women back in their career, and how to overcome them.

One of the main reasons that women stay stuck in careers that make them unhappy, is their limiting beliefs blocking them from taking action. It’s so normal to feel this way but unfortunately it can get in the way of you pursuing your dreams. Here are 10 of the most common career change blockers and my tips for overcoming them, so you can start taking action today towards your dream career.

10 limiting beliefs holding women back in their career

1. Now is not the right time

Whether that be due to the pandemic/moving house/saving for a much needed holiday, there never seems to be a right time to make a career change. Spoiler alert: there will never be a right time! Changing careers can feel like a huge milestone, but the best thing to do is break it down into small manageable steps. Set yourself a target date for when you want to have made the change, plan in all those little tasks and just get started.

2. I can’t afford it

There is usually an expectation when changing careers that you’ll have to take a big pay cut, or that you need to save up a 6 month buffer before you can even consider taking the leap. However, this is completely dependent on the career transition you are planning to do. Firstly I’d recommend getting up close and personal with your finances. Where are you spending money that you could cut down on for a short period of time to help you save up a small transition pot? Do you really need that extra bottle of vino in the weekly shop or could you put that tenner into a savings account? Secondly, have a think about how you could transition in a smart way; could you go part time in your current job and start building up hours in another role? That’s a great way to de-risk the transition.

3. Decision paralysis

Do you have so many ideas but none of them are grabbing you? You’re worried about making the wrong decision again and it’s keeping you stuck in the research phase? Don’t put so much pressure on picking the forever job. It’s impossible to pick one job that will suit you and your circumstances for the rest of your life. Pick one that you love the sound of now, give it a try, if it doesn’t work out you can try another one. It’s as simple as that! If you have a few ideas you’re interested in, think about how you could bring together elements of each to create a portfolio career.

4. What will my friends/family/partner say?

We all have a fear of judgement from others, especially our loved ones. It’s also very easy for our friends and family to project their fears onto us, which normally come from a place of love. Have an open and frank conversation with them about your plans. Give them the space to share their honest thoughts and see how you can put their minds at ease or do some worst-case scenario planning with them to make sure you’ve covered all bases if they were to come up.

5. What if I fail?

When you are trying something new it’s so normal to feel the fear of failure. If you give something a go and it doesn’t work out, or you decide it’s not for you, you might feel like you’ve failed. Reframe those feelings of failure and see them as a great learning opportunity. You’ve learned more about what you like doing, which you can apply to your next move. Something that you might see as a failure might make you stand out from others on your CV; it might show future employers that you’re brave and determined. On the flip side, if you follow your passion and do something you love it’s much more likely that you’ll succeed.

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Photo credit: 10'000 Hours

6. I have no idea what to do

This is similar to having too many options! You don’t feel like there is anything that you really want to do. Don’t put pressure on finding your purpose. Instead, brainstorm what are you curious about? It doesn’t have to be something that makes sense as a job just now. Maybe you like cooking, what could you do in this space to test it out? Maybe you could start a supper club, create an insta account sharing your tips etc. The options are endless but once you start to explore your idea as a side project, you’ll start to learn what you like and dislike and it’ll help to hone in on your future career idea.

7. I’m too old to change career

You are never too old to change careers! As we get older our interests and priorities change, so it’s natural to be drawn in a different direction. Often what this actually means is that you don’t want to start at the bottom of the ladder again. Think about what experience you have already gained that you can bring to the new role, even if it’s in a different industry. For example, do you have experience as a line manager or running a team. This experience is not dependent on industry and can help you to do a sideways move rather than start at the beginning again.

8. I don’t have any experience

Sometimes you might feel like you have no direct experience in something so it’s not worth applying for the job. Make a list of all your transferable skills that you can contribute to your new career. Think outside of your work, do you have any hobbies or side projects that you have done where you have showcased your skills? If you want to gain more direct experience in a new industry, think about how you can do this; do you have any contacts you could shadow or do some free work for in exchange for a reference? This will also help you to see if you really like this new career path.

9. I should be grateful, other people would love to have my job

This is particularly pertinent at the moment when a lot of people have lost their jobs. It can make you feel guilty about wanting to make a career change when things could be worse. If you’re feeling like this, have a think about why you think others would love to have your job, what are you placing value on? Is it the money, is it the job title, is it the people you work with? Everyone has different values, if it doesn’t meet your values and make you happy, then it doesn’t matter whether other people would love to do it or not; it’s not right for you and that’s ok.

10. Jobs aren’t meant to be fun, they’re meant to be hard work

A lot of us have been conditioned to think that we are not meant to love our jobs, they’re just for making money. We live for the weekend and dread Monday’s alarm going off! However, we spend a huge part of our life at work, we may as well enjoy it. There are plenty of people who love their jobs. If this sounds like you, don’t waste away your life living for the weekend, think of one small step you can take today to kick start your career change.

Sarah Marshall is on a mission is to help ambitious women who are unfulfilled in their career, to break free from the 9-5 hamster wheel so they can create a dream life & career on their own terms.

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