Nurse shares a "comforting" fact about death that most people won't have heard of

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Many of us fear death – and rightfully so, it’s totally unknowable. No matter your faith, beliefs, scientific knowledge, death can be a scary prospect to face down.

But a nurse has been sharing some comforting facts about death, in the hopes her informative, sensitive, and educating TikTok videos will make the taboo topic a little less scary.

Julie McFadden, 39, works as a hospice nurse, where death is a regular part of her job. On a daily basis, McFadden supports adults who are coming to the end of their lives.

In one of her recent TikTok posts, clocking in at over 400k views, she speaks about an unknown process called ‘visioning’ – something she explains is “a normal part of death and dying”.

When McFadden visits people’s homes, she notices they often experience ‘visioning’ as they pass away, where they will begin seeing deceased friends, family and pets. She claims that once people are aware of how common visioning is, it tends to lessen people’s fear.

McFadden, who is originally from Los Angeles, told her 1.1 million TikTok followers that people don’t experience visioning because of psychosis or being low on oxygen – it’s a common thing that occurs at the end of someone's life. McFadden explains: "It happens most of the time at the end of their life, but they aren't delusional. It's called 'visioning' and it's often very comforting for the person.”

She further explained: "It's never scary – if they're scared, it's likely they're experiencing delirium or paranoid, not visioning. It's so normal to fear death and I've had several patients who have expressed their fear. But then a family member came to them and they were no longer scared."

McFadden comments on how patients will still be conscious and lucid when they see their loved ones. They are fully aware of what’s going on: "Sometimes patients say they had a loved one come in a dream, or for others they're awake. People who have experienced this will say 'I know this sounds crazy'.”

Viewers in the comments also note how knowing about ‘visioning’ has changed their outlook on death. One person said: “This is the number one reason I’m no longer afraid to pass.., I can’t wait to see them all again. It seems peaceful.”

Another person commented: “I love the idea of being old and seeing my Mom again and her taking me into the afterlife as she brought me into this one.”

Others took the opportunity to share their own personal stories of family members who have experienced this.

One nurse said: “Yep, I had a patient tell me his dog was on the end of the bed, told me full description and name, told his wife made her smile.”

Another remarked: “My mom saw my grandma on a train in her dreams a month before she died and my grandma said, “Not yet but I’ll see you soon”.”

“My mother would often tell me that she just had a talk with my dad or one of her sisters. Started about a month before she passed and they looked good,” said one user.

Someone else added: “My grandpa told my grandma she needed to cook more soup because there wasn’t enough for “everybody.” They were the only two in the room.”

But there’s no easy cure for grief, and there’s not a ‘one size fits all’ way of going through a grieving period. Visioning, as mentioned above, and knowing a bit more about the process can help bring loved ones closer to those right before they pass away. The grief that follows from losing that person we love has the power to pull people away too, so look after yourselves.

For support through grief and bereavement, contact charity Mind.

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