Mum Pens Brutally Honest Post About How Having Kids Affects Your Relationship
Mel Watts has penned an honest Facebook post about how kids can affect your relationship [Photo: Facebook/Mel Watts]
Sleepless nights, baby sick on all your tops and not getting out of your PJs until 4 o clock are all par for the parenting course. What’s a little more unexpected, however, is the affect becoming a parent can have on your love life.
But one mum is winning praise from the Internet for her hugely honest account of how your relationship really changes post parenthood.
In a Facebook post that’s since gone viral with over 8K likes, Mel Watts has fessed-up about how having children altered her relationship with her husband.
“If someone told me years ago that my relationship would one day change, I would have laughed and said no way,” she wrote. Before going on to reveal that she has found herself lying in bed crying as her husband was “snoring his busy week away” and she reminisced about all the things they used to do as a couple.
Mel, her husband and children [Photo: Facebook/Mel Watts]
Though she confessed to being “mad” at both her and her husband for letting things change, she also notes that deep down she knows it’s nobody’s fault and “It’s just a moment in our life where I can say - it’s not all roses and handcuffs.”
The mum-of-three goes on to explain that “The long date nights have gone. The sleep-ins are non existent. The surprise weekends away, we can no longer afford them.”
The mum admits your relationship slips down the priority list when children come along [Photo: Facebook/Mel Watts]
“The long hot showers, are now lukewarm and we’re tag teaming kids in between. The late nights are now laying there silently with our backs to each other hoping the other one will get up for the crying baby.”
Mel, who writes the parenting blog The Modern Mumma, quips that shaving has become a thing for “birthdays, nights out and possibly [I mean possibly] because I just simply feel bad for him” only, and jokes that romantic text messages are more shopping list than saucy!
But it’s not all negative, because despite realising that parenthood has changed her relationship, she’s determined to re-dress the family balance.
Mel’s honest post is going viral [Photo: Facebook/Mel Watts]
“The children have become the number one priority and at some point we need to learn to put our relationship towards the top of that priority list,” she wrote. “I think in time it will become that way again.”
“You have to make it past these difficult times to get there. It’s not that it’s even difficult, it’s just different. And sometimes different is really hard.”
Unsurprisingly Mel’s open post has received hundreds of comments from frazzled parents who’s relationships also slipped down the to-do list when little ones came along.
“I’m so glad I’m not the only one,” one mum wrote. “I’ve been feeling the exact same lately and I’ve been really stressing about it and it’s making me so upset. And I’m so over reading and hearing about people saying their life is so perfect and their kids are amazing! More people need to be honest and real coz it really makes others feel better. So thank you!”
The honest post has received over 8K likes [Photo: Facebook/Mel Watts]
“I love this!!! Every word is so true, and it’s exactly how I’ve felt. How I’ve been feeling..” wrote another mum. “Our husbands are awesome, our kids are awesome, something’s gotta give and sometimes it’s the love, the together time, the sexy time, the wine time!! It’ll all come back together again in its own time.”
Mel concluded her post by asking: “Is the romance dead? Before answering, “No. It’s very much alive but it also has another three humans involved, so it’s not as easy anymore.”
“Do I think he deserves more? Of course I do. He deserves the world when at this moment all I can give him is a hairy, cranky wife.”
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