'My mum had unfortunate reaction to gender reveal – it's ruined my pregnancy'

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Gender reveals are a highlight for many pregnant women.

It can be incredibly exciting finding out the gender of your unborn baby. It may spur plans for names, wardrobes and even an excuse for a fun-filled gender reveal bash surrounded by your loved ones.

However, one mum-to-be was left heartbroken at her gender reveal party. When she found out she was having a baby boy, her own mum was "visibly disappointed".

Chronicling her experience on Mumsnet, the woman revealed her mum said it was a "shame" that a little girl wasn't on the way. But understandably, her comments didn't go down well.

The post reads: "Just found out we're having a boy and we're very excited so told my mum and she was visibly disappointed. [She was] saying 'I imagined you to have a daughter', she then went on to say there's something very special about having a daughter and a mum/daughter bond, and 'maybe you'll get one next time'.

"She now keeps saying every time the baby is mentioned how strange it feels that I'm having a boy and that she keeps picturing a girl."

Adding to the emotional trauma, the pregnant woman's mum keeps on eyeing up girls' clothes in stores and making snide comments.

The expectant mum expressed her frustration: "The last straw is how she keeps looking at all the lovely dresses in the shops and has to drag herself away reminding herself it's a boy. She's really taken the shine off this pregnancy and I'm starting to feel really angry and avoid the subject."

She also shared her thoughts on the situation: "I have told her I'm excited to be having a boy, I'm wondering if she's trying to relive having me through my baby or why is she finding it so strange that my baby is a little boy."

Online commenters were outraged on behalf of the pregnant woman, urging her to confront her mother about her feelings and suggesting she should "distance" herself if the behaviour continues.

One commenter didn't hold back: "I'd be furious and incredibly hurt, in equal measure. Her behaviour is completely unacceptable and I would tell her so. I would tell her she's doing a fine job of ruining what should be the happiest time of your life. I would then distance myself for the foreseeable."

Another pointed out the sad irony: "The irony of discussing mother/daughter relationships whilst simultaneously destroying her relationship with her daughter."

A third person commented on the deeper issue: "This is a classic example of parents projecting through their children and maybe she is nostalgic and thought she'd have another little you to relive those days but she's also being super rude and inconsiderate."