Mom-to-Be Says She's 'Not Completely in Love' with the Idea of Naming Her Child After Husband's Late Dad

A pregnant woman says she isn't keen on the name her husband wants for their son — the same name as his late father.

In a post on Reddit, the woman writes that she is currently pregnant with the pair's second child and, before the couple found out the baby's sex, her husband proposed that they consider his dad's name. But she wasn't interested.

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"Before finding out the gender my husband got upset that I didn't want to name our potential son after his dad who passed away 7 years ago," she writes. "I didn't completely disregard the name. I agreed to having it be his middle name and said we could pick out a first name we both loved but he refused to negotiate and said the point of us having a son would be to name him after his dad."

The problem, the woman writes, is that she's "just not completely in love with the name."

As fate would have it, the couple recently found out they're having a girl, so the name is now off the table entirely. But now the woman fears that a future child could be a boy — and then the conversation will resurface.

"Maybe in the future I can let him name our potential son whatever he wants. I know the name is special to him which is why I didn't completely disregard it but I'm just not completely in love with it," she adds in the post. "I always imagined picking my future child's name with my partner and loving it. Maybe that's unrealistic?"

She ends her post with a question to Reddit: If the couple has a son in the future, would she be in the wrong "if I didn't want to name him what my husband wants?"

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Fellow Reddit users said that if the couple were to have a son, using the husband's preferred name as the child's middle name would be solid middle ground.

"The middle name is a reasonable compromise," wrote one commenter on the post. "My son is named after my uncle and grandad, so I get how names can be important in family connections. When we were thinking of names we had options where my son's first name was his middle name instead... and we picked the one that fit after we met him."

Added another: "Using the name as a middle name is beautiful tribute enough, and using a new name as a first name ensures the child has their own identity rather than feeling the pressure to live up to expectations of a grandparent/relative."

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