'Married neighbour wants to get me into bed – my reply hasn't fazed him'

A woman telling a man behind her to leave her alone
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Don't soil your own nest.

It's a phrase that's been used for decades and remains true to this very day – because getting involved with those close to you can lead to very awkward moments.

That's what happened to one woman, who felt uncomfortable after being propositioned by her neighbour. While she does find him attractive, there's a big problem.

He's been married for 20 years – and lives next door with his wife who could catch them at any moment! For that reason, the woman told the fellow resident "very clearly" that she's not interested.

This doesn't seem to have stopped him – so she took to Mumsnet for advice on the matter. She wrote: "I get along with him as a neighbour, there's a few of us who all chat and have a laugh.

"I get on with his wife but I don't see her out and about as often as him. Me and him have never been alone other than if we bump into each other outside the houses. I've never flirted. I wouldn't say that we're close friends but we get on as neighbours – all of us."

The woman went on to ask why married men cheat instead of leaving their partners. She added: "I just want to clarify again I will not be pursuing it. And even if he did become single I wouldn't be with him as I couldn't trust him. I'm so disappointed. He seemed like such a lovely guy and I've seen this whole other side of him with this. I look at him differently from how I used to. I'm shocked."

Commenters on the post reassured the lass that she's not in the wrong. One wrote: "He sounds like a real peach. I think telling him you would if he were single was a bad idea though – that's just encouraging him and letting him know you find him attractive. Keep your distance for the time being – he'll lose interest soon enough."

And another added: "He's behaving this way because he's a selfish d***head who wants an ego boost. It all about him, not you (or his wife). It's not because he particularly likes you or finds you really attractive. It's because you're convenient, has opportunities to flirt and he thinks he's in with a chance. He's a creep and a horrible person."

So what would you do? Let us know in the comments below.