Man Suggests Ex-Girlfriend's Name for Baby with New Wife, Then Defends His 'Harmless Suggestion'

"I think it was a harmless suggestion as we both liked the name," the man writes on Reddit

A man is raising eyebrows online after sharing that he suggested a unique name for his new baby with his wife: the name of his ex-girlfriend.

In a post shared on Reddit, the anonymous, 40-year-old man writes that he and his wife, Anna, recently had a baby girl.

"During the pregnancy we had settled on the name Elizabeth," he writes. "Baby is born, healthy and we didn't think she suited the name Elizabeth, I suggested the name Imogen, to honour my ex but also because Anna loved the name."

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As the man explains, he was in a relationship with Imogen for 12 years. "She was my first everything. I will openly admit I still do love Imogen, however she passed. Anna is my life, my future, my family," he writes.

And although Anna likes the name Imogen, she was not happy when he suggested the name for their own child.

"Spoiler alert; Anna cried and we settled on the name Elenor," he writes, adding: "Things have been tense; she'll hold the baby to feed her, that's it. She's getting help, she's never once said anything just claimed this pregnancy was harder."

The man adds that his family members "are completely unhappy with me."

"I told them the name I suggested and they've all lost it saying the timing was poor ... I think it was a harmless suggestion as we both liked the name," he writes.

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Now, the man wants to know if he was in the wrong.

Perhaps unsurprisingly, commenters on the post seem to think so.

"Your wife just gave birth to your child and after deciding that your original name didn't suit your baby (which is absolutely fine), your first thought is to honor your late [ex]?" writes one. "Not sure how you thought that was a good idea."

Adds another: "You are insisting that this was a 'harmless suggestion' when it clearly deeply hurt your wife at one of the most vulnerable moments of her life? Your suggestion in the first place was insensitive and extremely inappropriate."