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I’m happy and childless at 38 — but I was bullied for it and called ‘sad’ and a ‘pathetic cow’

Emily Hart learned just how sexist corners of the internet are after posting about how she was happily unmarried and childless at 37 and living her best life.
Emily Hart learned just how sexist corners of the internet are after posting about how she was happily unmarried and childless at 37 and living her best life.

A woman living her dream said her life became a nightmare overnight.

An American travel influencer said that ever since posting about living a happy, childfree life at age 37 last fall, she’s been hounded by internet trolls and cyberbullies — mostly male — who spew vitriol at her.

However, after writing a piece for Today.com detailing her harrowing experience, Emily Hart, now 38, has realized she isn’t alone in her struggle to live life to the fullest without being attacked for it.

“The response to the essay has been really lovely and overwhelmingly positive with many women reaching out who can relate,” she told The Post

Hart, who goes by emilyventures on Instagram, first posted a reel of herself in all the beautiful travel destinations she’s visited, along with the title: “Age 37: Never married. No Kids.”

It has been viewed more than 16 million times.

Since then, though, she’s gotten bombarded with hateful comments.

One she shared in her essay reads: “No kids, not married, and 37, just a big child with no responsibility and never done anything useful, pathetic cow.”

She wrote that “hundreds of commenters per hour” told her she was “pathetic” and speculated that feminism “deluded me into believing I was happy.”

Hart noted that many of the commenters were men who had pictures of their children in their profile photos. Some women messaged her, too — “many with Bible verses and ‘kindness’ in their bios, telling me every variation of ‘you will die alone’ and ‘no one wants you anyway’ that they could muster,” she added.

According to her rant, she suspects her post went viral among the “tradwife,” side of the internet, in which content creators glorify staying at home and adhering to traditional gender roles.

She said that since writing her essay, other women shared their support for her and said they had similar experiences. Instagram/@emilyventures
She said that since writing her essay, other women shared their support for her and said they had similar experiences. Instagram/@emilyventures

The influencer of more than a decade said that in the first week after making her post, she doesn’t think she slept for over 30 minutes at a time.

She later fell into a depression and suffered from “digestive problems, low energy, panic attacks, angry outbursts, and my skin started breaking out,” she wrote.

As a seasoned influencer, she was used to handling a few nasty comments and she would just block a hater or delete a crass comment — and then move on with her life.

Hart said that social media went from being a happy place to a scary one. Instagram/@emilyventures
Hart said that social media went from being a happy place to a scary one. Instagram/@emilyventures
Hart said she went into a depression after going viral. Instagram/@emilyventures
Hart said she went into a depression after going viral. Instagram/@emilyventures

Unfortunately, the hateful words seemingly came in faster than she was able to delete them. Sharing her life online had once filled her with so much confidence, but the opposite was happening now.

” ‘It’s not normal to have this much negativity thrown at you,’ I tried to explain to friends, but the truth is not many people have ever or will ever experience anything like this,” she penned.

“There is no road map or DSM diagnosis for going viral, but as I now know from my experience, it can be life-altering,” she added.

She felt pressured to write follow-up posts explaining that she didn’t necessarily want to avoid marriage or having kids forever — but it was where she was in her life at the moment, and it wasn’t going to stop her from enjoying herself.

The way she views social media has changed since negative comments piled up.

She’s sharing her story in the hopes it will spread awareness about cyberbullying. Instagram/@emilyventures
She’s sharing her story in the hopes it will spread awareness about cyberbullying. Instagram/@emilyventures
The influencer said becoming viral has its setbacks. Instagram/@emilyventures
The influencer said becoming viral has its setbacks. Instagram/@emilyventures

“For months after the post, I was on edge whenever I opened Instagram,” she wrote in her essay. “The app that makes up a large percentage of my livelihood had become something I feared.”

Hart, a solo traveler who claims she has visited all 50 states and almost every national park, is sharing her hardships along with her travels to spread awareness about cyberbullying.

“I want to use my experiences to clear the field for others, and I believe vulnerability and honesty are how to do it,” she said.