Kristen Wiig has discussed her journey to motherhood for the first time.
The Bridesmaids actress welcomed her first children, twins, with her partner fellow actor Avi Rothman, in January via surrogate, which the family chose to keep private.
The Saturday Night Live alum has now spoken for the first time about becoming a mother and the journey it took to get there, including three years of IVF treatment.
Wiig said she has been with Rothman for five years but three of which were spent in an 'IVF haze'.
'Emotionally, spiritually, and medically, it was probably the most difficult time in my life,' Wiig told InStyle. 'I wasn’t myself. There are so many emotions that go with it — you’re always waiting by the phone and getting test results, and it was just bad news after bad news. Occasionally there would be a good month, but then it was just more bad news. There was a lot of stress and heartache.'
Wiig said she carried on with her work and life, often having to inject herself in airport bathrooms and restaurants, and chose not to speak about it much due to the emotional toll it was taking on her. However, she said when she did, she would learn of more and more women going through the same thing.
'It’s like this underground community that’s talked about but not talked about,' she said.
Wiig said that after the years of fertility struggles, she 'finally' accepted surrogacy as an option but was honest with the magazine about the ups and downs of the process.
'So many things were bittersweet,' Wiig admitted. 'I was over the moon feeling them kick for the first time, but then I would get in my head and ask myself all these questions, like, "Why couldn’t I do this?" At the same time I would tell myself it didn’t matter. She was giving us the greatest gift, and I just wanted them to get here.'
Wiig said she formed a very strong connection with her surrogate and now wouldn't 'have had it any other way'.
Choosing to open up about it for the first time, Wiig - who is famously private - said she wished she had spoken about it more so that she would have realised how much help and support is out there for women experiencing difficulties and struggles with fertility.
'As private as I am and as sacred as this all is, what helped me was reading about other women who went through it and talking to those who have gone through IVF and fertility stuff,' said Wiig. 'It can be the most isolating experience. But I’m trying to find that space where I can keep my privacy and also be there for someone else who may be going through it.'
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