"The last man on earth a girl can marry is the one she says she loves, because if she loves him, already to her family she has done something shameful, something forbidden."
Rahmat Sulemani powerfully exposes the root of so-called 'honour'-based violence against women to Chief Inspector Caroline Goode during the investigation into the disappearance of 20-year-old Banaz Mahmod in 2006, in ITV drama Honour.
Banaz, who was an Iraqi Kurd from Mitcham, south London, was brutally murdered by members of her family for bringing 'shame' onto them and their community when she divorced her abusive husband and began a relationship with Rahmat.
The underlying belief behind the abuse - which isn't dictated by religion - is maintaining control over women by men within the family or community by denying women autonomy over their lives.
The series unfurls from the perspective of DCI Goode, played by Keeley Hawes, who went on to bring the murderers to justice after a string of shocking police failings during which Banaz's complaints about having her life threatened by family members were dismissed.
Keeley said was "embarrassed" to admit that - much like DCI Goode at the time and other officers involved in the case - she knew very little about so-called 'honour'-based violence against women, but hopes to educate others by bringing this story to the mainstream.
Keeley also serves as executive producer through her production company Buddy Club on the two-part series.
"I was embarrassed and ashamed that I knew so little about it - and I read those scripts and I went through every emotion and I was embarrassed that I did't know," the actress told Good Housekeeping and others during a Q&A for the drama. "It was partly because of that, that I wanted to get involved [both as executive producer and actor], and I could really learn about this subject. It couldn't be more important as a story."
The actress said that the impact of lockdown due to the Coronavirus pandemic, which saw a rise in calls to charity helplines from those affected by 'honour' based violence, only added to the urgency of calling attention to the issue.
"We also had no idea when we started making this show that lockdown would come about and it would become all the more important to tell this story and put it onto the screen and educate a mainstream audience," the Bodyguard star explained.
Karma Nirvana, a charity which supports victims of honour-based violence and forced marriages, said it received an increase in calls to its helpline during the pandemic, which producer Alliea Nazar said made getting this story out now even more important.
"The numbers have been rising during Covid-19, so we thought it would be incredibly important to tell this story and use the framework of a police investigation to bring a mainstream audience to this issue and highlight this issue."
Alliea revealed that she too learned a lot about honour-based violence under the guidance of charities such as Karma Nirvana, and the "humbling" experience of attending Karma Nirvana's annual Day of Memory, which is held for surviving family members to come together and remember those they have lost to so-called honour killings.
"One of my biggest learning curves was during the Day of Memory with Gwyn [writer], and it was really humbling," Alliea reflected.
She also commented that the crime "wears many faces" and warned against making sweeping generalisations about the type of person affected by the abuse.
"What I also learned from that day and from several people there was that this crime wears many different faces, and to assume that it happens to one kind of person or one kind of community means we can miss potential victims. So I learned that I didn't know as much as I thought I did."
Honour writer Gwyneth Hughes also spoke about how Banaz's sister Bekhal Mahmod - played by Rhianne Barreto in the drama - was integral to the production, sharing her experience of how Banaz was oppressed and mistreated up until her horrific murder.
Bekhal risked her life to help bring the perpetrators to justice, and as a result is now in witness protection.
"She has a new name, identity, I don't know her address, I don't have a phone number," Gwyneth explained. "She can call me - she told me she watched it last night and she thought it was great and she cried a lot. She's a fantastic young woman.
"This girl gave up everything. We have become close through our phone relationship. Her life remains in danger which is why she's still in witness protection. From the view of the family, she destroyed the family. She gave evidence in court against her father and her uncle and that's just so brave to put herself out there. This show is full of people I really admire."
Meanwhile, Keeley became emotional as she reflected on the "huge responsibility" she carried while making the series - and continues to feel the weight of - in ensuring that the drama was respectful to Banaz and Caroline, and their families, rather than exploitative.
"We were all so mindful that we were dealing with real people... Banaz and Caroline, their families, and so there is that element of course and the responsibility is huge...
"It's huge, I felt it every day, I've felt it every day since I really have, I haven't taken it lightly and you want to - sorry! [for crying]...," Keeley said. "And you want to do the right thing by everyone involved because it is about it's about those two women, you want to give Banaz the upmost respect and do the right thing by Caroline."
She continued: "I think we all felt the commitment to Banaz and we are making drama where you'd be like: 'That was a hard day on set' and there were hard days on set but you always feel slightly ridiculous when you're talking about something like this, when these are real people and it's unimaginable what Banaz and her family have been through. And Caroline dedicated her life to this case."
On what she hopes this drama can help change, Keeley added: "I think if one girl or woman doesn't have to go through what Banaz had to go through then it's a success.
"One of my reasons for doing it and the thing that I held onto is shining a light so-called - I hate to use the word honour - it's murder, it's rape, it's abuse - shining a light on all of those things is something we can use our work to do and I think in this case certainly incredibly worthwhile."
Honour airs on ITV soon.
For advice and support related to this issue you can visit Karma Nirvana's website and call its helpline on 0800 5999 247.
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