Most of you will have heard of the elusive G-spot, but only a few claim to have actually found it. While the mystery sex button is said to produce mind-blowing orgasms, the G-spot is notoriously difficult to locate – and expert opinion is divided on whether or not it even exists.
If you're keen to explore your (or a partner's) G-spot, we spoke to Gynaecologist and co-founder of HANX Dr Sarah Welsh and LoveHoney Sex and Relationship Expert Lindsay Phillips to find out exactly what the G-spot is, where to find it and how to use it to your advantage in the bedroom.
But before we get started: high five if you do hit the G-spot jackpot, but please don't put yourself (or your vagina-having partner) under pressure to locate it. Everyone experiences sexual pleasure in different ways and some women have zero sexual response in this area, so hunting for a mythical sex organ can make vagina-owners feel inadequate, self-conscious and even a bit sore - none of which are conducive to hot sex.
Provided you're having safe, fun and consensual sex with plenty of orgasms all round, then remember that the ultimate goal in all of your sexual research should be pleasure, pleasure and more pleasure. If rooting around for a G-spot doesn't tick your boxes, focus on the clitoris instead. The humble clit is more than capable of giving you all the orgasmic bliss you ever dreamed of.
What is the G-spot?
The G-spot is essentially an internal erogenous zone credited with delivering vaginal orgasms. However, it is notoriously tricky for women to climax through penetrative sex alone. In a 2017 study, only 18 per cent of vagina-owners hit the high notes without the addition of clitoral stimulation. But when the clit does get tickled, most people with vaginas (and their partners) have a great time! So why the obsession with vaginal orgasms?
We have the father of psychoanalysis Sigmund Freud to thank for this blue sky thinking. Back in the 1900s Freud suggested that clitoral orgasms were not only inferior to vaginal orgasms, but they were also a sign of sexual and psychological immaturity, and sometimes even mental illness. Given that vaginal orgasms also require a penis, this puts male pleasure firmly at centre stage - and most women in the nuthouse. Thanks Freud.
Fast forward a few years and the German gynaecologist Ernst Grafenberg laid official claim to the G-spot. Grafenberg, who was also the inventor of the coil intra-uterine device, believed he had discovered a new erogenous zone, located near the front wall of the vagina in the region of the urethra. He published his findings in the International Journal of Sexology in 1950 in a paper called The Role of the Urethra in Female Orgasm.
When stimulated, the G-spot is said to deliver sexual arousal, orgasms and for a lucky few even ejaculation, but for many women stimulation of this area also just makes them want to pee. If tickling your anterior vaginal walls in search of a mystery sex button doesn't do it for you, then stick two fingers up at Freud and don't bother. There are plenty of ways to enjoy yourself that don't involve peeing.
Does the G-spot really exist?
Expert opinion is divided about the existence of the G-spot, never mind its location. In 2001 the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology called the Gräfenberg spot 'a modern gynecologic myth'. Conversely in 2008 an Italian team from the University of L'Aquila carried out ultrasound scans on 20 women and reported a correlation between a 'thickened area' behind the urethra area and the ability to experience vaginal orgasms.
In the years since, doctors have reviewed data, endlessly studied every inch of the vagina and even carried out postmortem studies in a bid to find the G-spot, and came up empty handed every time.
And yet anecdotally some women continue to praise vaginal orgasms - and who are we to argue? So the best way to answer this question is to explore your own vagina (or your partner's, if they're willing) and decide for yourself if your G-spot does indeed exist. The truth is, for some it might exist and for others it might not. Try to focus on the journey instead of the destination, and you'll have a fun and fulfilling time either way.
Where is the G-spot?
The biggest obstacle to enjoying G-spot play is often finding it in the first place. In a recent study only 51.1 per cent of women managed to locate theirs, so if you can't find the damn thing you are not alone. 'The G-spot is not a distinct part of our anatomy, but rather an area of the vagina, so many people find it difficult to locate,' says Dr Welsh. 'What's more, not everyone feels pleasure at this location at all.'
Legend has it the G-spot sits just underneath the front vaginal wall but (much like vaginas) everyone is different, so think of it as more of an erogenous zone than a precise point. 'The G-spot is believed to be felt through the wall of the vagina, an inch or two behind the back of the pubic bone, near the junction of the bladder and urethra,' says Dr Walsh.
'It is made up of tissues of the clitoris, urethra and the female "prostate" called the Skene's gland, that many believe explains female ejaculation,' she adds. 'Any position can stimulate the G-spot. Try stroking and stimulating the anterior wall of the vagina, have fun with it and don't forget to be safe!'
How to find your G-spot
While it can differ depending on the owner, most women who have successfully located their G-spot describe it as a small spongy area tucked just underneath the front vaginal wall. 'It is spongy tissue, about the size of a 5 pence, but the area can swell when aroused to around double that,' says Dr Welsh.
To locate your G-spot, Phillips recommends the following self-exploration techniques:
To find your G-spot, experiment with your fingers first.
The exact location of the G-spot can vary from person to person. However, this ultra sensitive bundle of nerve endings should swell and become more sensitive during arousal, so you’ll stand a much better chance of finding it if you’re already aroused.
The G-spot lies deep in your flesh, surrounded by dense tissue, so you may need to use a little more pressure when you’re stimulating it.
Begin by stimulating your clitoris, and bring yourself to orgasm if you can. Then, slide your palm down your stomach, and insert a lube-covered finger or two into your vagina.
Once your fingers are a couple of inches inside you, curl them backwards in a 'come-hither' motion. You should be able to feel a fleshy, ridged area that’s different to the rest of the vagina. When you hit it, you'll know. As it fills with blood, the G-spot will swell and firm up.
When you’re stimulating the G-spot you might feel like you need to pee, as the bladder is just on the other side of the vaginal wall. Keep doing whatever you're doing, though, and you may well experience a thrilling internal orgasm.
Sex toys that come with a curve to help angle towards this internal sweet spot can speed up the process.
If you think you've found your G-spot but tickling it produces none of the aforementioned mind-blowing orgasms, do not be dismayed. 'Many women may not experience any pleasure from the G-spot at all,' says Dr Welsh. 'Stimulation of the clitoris is the most surefire way for women to reach orgasm,' she adds.
Even if the G-spot really does exist, in a surprise to absolutely no-one, a recent study reported zero links between mental instability and clitoral stimulation. In-your-face Sigmund Freud! The research also found that women who focused on their clit to reach orgasm reported higher sexual enjoyment all round. So if the above tips fail to deliver, call off the G-spot hunt and focus on effective orgasmic pleasure instead.
Last updated: 10-02-2021
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