Emilia Clarke on the book that helped her grieve following the death of her father

Jessica Davis
·2-min read
Photo credit: Emilia wearing Christian Dior Haute Couture, photographed by David Slijper
Photo credit: Emilia wearing Christian Dior Haute Couture, photographed by David Slijper

Grief, unfortunately, is something we will all experience at some point in our lifetime.

There’s no right or wrong way to process losing someone and it’s something you can’t prepare for. That said, there are some things you can take support from, whether that’s joining specific networks or reading and watching for comfort and understanding at such a hard time.

Emilia Clarke recommends one book in particular that helped her cope with the death of her father.

Why Didn’t You Just Do What You Were Told? written by the late essayist Jenny Diski, particularly resonated with Clarke, she says, as it approached death with “tenderness” and “comedy”.

“Subjects like death, she treats with such tenderness but also such comedy. The way that she writes about it, it makes you feel OK,” explained Clarke on BBC Sounds' The Book That Changed Me.

“I know it sounds silly but I lost my dad four years ago and it still feels like it was yesterday. And since his death I think about death a lot and I consider his a lot. And so to read her take on it was just really a tonic for the soul.”

Due to social distancing restrictions during the ongoing Covid-19 pandemic, Clarke wasn't able to lose herself in a bookshop as normal.

"Without being able to walk into a bookshop I signed up to a book subscription service, so every month I get delivered a book and I get very excited that I don't know what it is," she explained. "And this was one of them, I was so absorbed by her writing, it was unreal."

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