Lindsay submitted her Tinder profile for review by an expert as part of Insider's Dating App Clinic.
Dating coach Erika Ettin said Lindsay should remove some photos and crop her friends out of others.
Ettin also shared how Lindsay can edit her written bio to get more matches to message her.
Lindsay, a 41-year-old using Tinder to date, submitted her profile for Insider's Dating App Clinic, a series where we ask experts how to revamp your dating profiles to increase your chances of finding a match.
Lindsay said she's looking to date men. She's seeking someone who is honest and emotionally intelligent, and who has a growth mindset. Her deal breakers are smoking and poor communication.
"I want to convey that I'm an introvert. I like to balance being adventurous and a home body, and being fun and serious," Lindsay told Insider. "I also really care about personal growth and equity and diversity."
Ultimately, Lindsay is seeking a long-term partnership that can turn into marriage. She's also open to having children.
Lindsay said she thinks she did a good job of picking selfies and other photos that show off her appearance and interests, but wonders if her photo choices and written bio are too specific.
Dating coach Erika Ettin told Insider how Lindsay could update her dating profile to increase her chances of finding a match.
As it stands, Lindsay's profile is good, with no glaring mistakes, Ettin said.
It's great that Lindsay filled out her profile completely, including a solid written bio, plenty of photographs, and tags for the types of connections she's open to making, Ettin said.
In Ettin's experience, many dating-app users make the mistake of leaving parts of their profile blank, which typically leads to fewer compatible matches than desired.
Lindsay's profile has lots of crisp, clear, and engaging photos, Ettin said.
Profiles with blurry or dark photos aren't attention-grabbing, yet Ettin comes across them a lot when reviewing clients' profiles, she told Insider.
Lindsay avoids that common mistake by including a variety of bright and engaging images in her profile.
In this photo, Ettin especially enjoyed that Lindsay sports a grin. Ettin said it's important for singles to show teeth in at least one dating profile photos since it gives potential matches a well-rounded idea of your appearance.
Here, Ettin suggested Lindsay crop her friends out of the shot to avoid confusion.
Most singles on dating apps are swiping at a pace where they won't stop to consider who's who in a group shot, according to Ettin.
"And even if they do, there's a chance they may find someone else in your photo more attractive than you are. I don't want to take that risk," Ettin said.
Since Lindsay doesn't have other full-body shots in her profile — something everyone should include in their profile, Ettin said — she could keep this one, but edit it to hide her friends.
Ettin suggested Lindsay add more personal details in her written bio.
Ettin loved how Lindsay listed her favorite activities, and suggested she keep them.
At the same time, it's possible that Lindsay's descriptions of her personality, like "easy going" and "love to laugh," could be too generic to entice the right matches, according to Ettin.
She also said these phrases are highly subjective, so putting them in a profile doesn't provide useful details for potential matches.
To remedy this, Ettin suggested Lindsay take a more humorous and detail-oriented approach. Lindsay could write something like, "Before you alert the authorities, if you can't find me, I'm likely on a hiking trail, ski slope (love Vermont!), or at a campsite. Otherwise, I'm in my hammock with a book, if we're being honest (audiobook, if we're being really honest). Consummate overthinker — my INFJ blessing and curse. Lover of learning, adventure, and personal growth."
Lindsay has a few too many photos, Ettin said. She suggested removing this one.
Ettin tells her clients to avoid photos where their faces or eyes are obscured. Since Lindsay is wearing sunglasses here, Ettin would take it out, she said.
Ettin said she'd remove this one too, since Lindsay's face is mostly covered.
Ettin tells her clients to include only five or six photos in their dating profiles, even if certain apps have space for more.
"Don't give people the opportunity to find one picture they don't like, and then swipe left because of it. People want to see who is going to walk into the date — nothing more, nothing less," Ettin told Insider.
Lindsay can remove this friend photo, and focus on more tried-and-true picture formats, Ettin said.
Ettin tells her clients to think of four categories when compiling dating profile photos: One clear shot of your face, one full-body shot, one of you doing something "interesting," and one or two showing you in your "element."
Since this photo includes a friend, Ettin suggested Lindsay replace it with one that is just of her, and fits into one of the last two photo categories she listed.
Lindsay should also consider making profiles on Bumble and Hinge, Ettin said.
Singles often view Tinder as a platform for casual connections, Ettin said. Since Lindsay is seeking a committed monogamous relationship, Ettin suggested she check out Bumble and Hinge, two apps that she finds more attuned to that goal.
Ultimately, Lindsay should focus on planting conversation-starters throughout her profile, Ettin said.
The changes Ettin suggested — especially the ones for the written bio — could help Lindsay get more messages in her inbox.
In Ettin's experience, securing matches is not as difficult as striking up intriguing conversation with one that results in a date.
But tweaking a profile with "message bait," like specific places, silly personal quirks, and visually pleasing photos can push a match to reach out first, Ettin said.
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