Couple Wants Vegetarian Menu at Wedding, But Bride's Parents — Who Are Paying the Bill — Say Meat Is a Must

The bride's parents labeled her as "disrespectful" for serving meatless meals at their wedding, according to a viral Reddit post

• A bride's disagreement with her parents over the type of food to serve at her wedding has gone viral on Reddit

• The user shared that she and her husband-to-be, both vegetarians, want a fully vegetarian menu on their big day, but the bride's parents have called the decision "disrespectful"

• Redditors responded to the post largely siding with the bride but noted that she should expect some "added stress" as a result of the choice

For one bride, selecting her wedding menu has become a point of contention with her parents, who disagree with her choice to serve a meatless menu on the big day.

In a post on Reddit's popular "AITA" page from July 15, Reddit user SwimmingFew6861 explained that she is in the midst of finalizing the food aspect of her reception a couple of months away, describing herself and her fiancé as "pretty relaxed vegetarians."

"If we go out, we totally don't mind if our friends/family choose meat or fish to eat, same if we visit family," she explained. "As long as there is a veggie option, then great." With it being their wedding, however, the couple "thought it would be nice to have a fully vegetarian menu."

The bride's parents, who are paying for the meal, however, aren't on board. They said that it's "disrespectful" to people who aren't vegetarian, and "forcing" their "ethics" onto other people, according to the user.

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The bride, however, is insistent that since it's their wedding, they can serve what they want and is confident it will be delicious. She noted that none of her friends ever had issues eating vegetarian food when they host, but her parents think the wedding should be different.

"People "expect luxury food,' " according to her parents, she said, "especially if they are traveling from abroad (many are) and apparently this needs to include meat."

"I don't mind that much if our guests eat meat but it is inconsistent with our own life choices and it is our day, so that could make it feel inauthentic," SwimmingFew6861 said, also adding that the "meat thing is quite generational."

Though her fiancé has agreed with her, the Redditor is divided since her parents are paying for the meal. "WIBTA if I got everyone only vegetarian food?" she asked

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Many users were quick to label her as "not the a------" in the situation.

"It does not seem like it's pushing anything on anyone, any more than ANY other food choice would be," one user wrote. "If you offered chicken would you be 'pushing chicken onto people'? This is being overly politicized and overly dramatized by the people around you."

Another user said that it shouldn't be an issue for people to forgo eating meat for one meal. "My wife and I are of your parent's generation and your idea sounds delicious!," they said. "Your parents are very kindly offering to help pay for the wedding of their beloved daughter. That shouldn't come with strings attached."

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A third user pointed out that just because a meal doesn't have any meat doesn't mean it won't be filling or is simply only vegetables, offering examples. "Frittatas and cheeses with the cocktail hour or coal-fired pizzas and flatbreads. Pasta with the main course," they suggested.

Another user noted that although there may be meatless alternatives for dishes, the hosts should be weary of allergens.

"Please avoid meat substitutes as that is not something that people generally consider for allergies or sensitivities," they said.

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One user offered a way that the bride and groom could still have their vegetarian fare without it causing an issue with the parents.

"If you really want to have everything exactly your way, then pay for the entire wedding yourself, and that way your parents can't be blamed," they wrote.

Another highlighted that the couple should be "prepared for people to be unhappy about it though."

"Both before the event and during," the user said. "You need to decide whether having only vegetarian food is worth that added stress."

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