Shawn Mendes reveals how falling in love with Camilla Cabello changed him

Dusty Baxter-Wright
·14-min read

From Cosmopolitan

While it might have felt like Shawn Mendes and Camila Cabello were suddenly everywhere thanks to their single 'Senorita', the pair have actually been flirting up a storm since 2014.

By summer 2019 they still hadn't actually confirmed they were dating, but thanks to that MTV VMAs performance, the multiple photos of them kissing, floating around the internet AND the fact she says she loves him, we're could safely assume they were. Since then, it's been a PDA whirlwind.

So let's take a look at their relationship - starting with the most recent update.

November 18, 2020: In a candid new interview, Shawn has opened up about how falling in love with Camila changed him as a person. The singer spoke to Apple Music's Zane Lowe about their relationship, revealing it's the first time he's been in love.

"A lot happens when you fall in love for the first time, because you really feel this support, this grounded, 'Hey, if everything goes away, I'm going to be okay. It's perspective, and it's beautiful. And it really allows you to be like, 'OK, well, if I'm going to do this [make music, etc.], I might as well be doing it for the right reasons and really, really, really enjoying it.' Otherwise, I'd just rather watch movies with you all day."

He also said the couple always put themselves first before each other. "You can not be the best version of a son or a brother or a boyfriend or a friend to anybody if you're not constantly there for you, and you're watching out for you, and you're checking in on your heart and your space and your energy," he went on. "And the closer you get to that clarity and that freedom within you, the more space you have for everybody else in your life. And I think that that was something that really happened over that period too, especially with Camila and I, is that we started giving ourselves a lot more time, which then allowed us to give everything more time and space, if that makes sense."

The same day, Shawn also shared a sweet picture of Camila kissing him on the cheek. So cute, guys.


Here's a detailed timeline of the rest of Shawn Mendes and Camila Cabello's relationship:

September 11, 2014

While in Fifth Harmony, Camila Cabello reaches out to Shawn Mendes on Twitter with a flirty message, referring to him as 'Shawnyboy'.

"@shawnmendes shawnyboy!!!! Gonna miss ya man. You rock but you would rock more if you laughed when i said uteruses before duderuses. JK ILY," she wrote in a tweet which has since had over 4,000 retweets.


June 28, 2015

Shawn plays a prank on Camila while she's sleeping, and the singer later shares a photo of it on her Instagram. "Remember that one time @shawnmendes and @schloss8 decided to turn me into a fruit basket while i was napping?.... KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN BOYS," she wrote.

August 30, 2015

The pair are photographed backstage at the MTV VMAs:

Photo credit: Rachel Murray - Getty Images
Photo credit: Rachel Murray - Getty Images

September 19, 2015

And then at the iHeartRadio Music Festival:

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Photo credit: Michael Tran - Getty Images

September 21, 2015

Shawn shuts down claims he and Camila are dating in an interview with E! News, commenting, "We can’t do that! I mean, Spanish and Canadian don’t really mix."

Hmm?

October 23, 2015

And then they were pictured on The Elvis Duran Z100 Morning Show together:

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Photo credit: D Dipasupil - Getty Images

November 20, 2015

Shawn and Camila drop their first collaboration 'I Know What You Did Last Summer', along with a moody video:

November 23, 2015

The pair deny they're dating or have ever kissed during an interview with James Corden. "Every time I try to make a move, she just swerves me off," Shawn admitted.

December 1, 2015
They look close at Y100's Jingle Ball:

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Photo credit: Alexander Tamargo - Getty Images

June 16, 2016

Shawn and Camila hold hands on stage at the MuchMusic Video Awards, after winning an award for their duet:

Photo credit: George Pimentel - Getty Images
Photo credit: George Pimentel - Getty Images

May 19, 2017

Shawn tells Camila she's "incredible" in her new solo single 'Crying In The Club', while Camila maintains that she loves Shawn as a friend.

"Speechless.. goosebumps all over. You're incredible," he writes, to which she replies, "I love u SO much and i miss u even more than I love u thank u for being such an amazing friend [sic]"

February 2018

Camila starts dating 'relationship coach' Matthew Hussey after being spotted on holiday kissing in San Lucas.

December 9, 2018

Over a year later, Camila randomly shares a photo of Shawn braiding her hair.

February 11, 2019

Camila and Shawn attend the GRAMMYs together, and are photographed sharing a special moment backstage. "So proud of this amazing human !!!!!! seems like yesterday we were just kids singing Ed Sheeran songs in the dressing room, now we’re kids trying not to throw up cause we’re at the Grammys!!!! I love you forever ❤️" she wrote to her followers.

June 20, 2019

Their latest song, 'Senorita' drops, unsurprisingly sending the fandom wild:

June 21, 2019

Shawn shares some extremely sexy BTS shots from 'Senorita':

June 26, 2019

Us Weekly reports that Camila and Matthew are done. Camila takes to Instagram Stories to call out her fans for trolling her ex, writing, "To my fans, if you really love me, please do not send people I love and care about hateful things. You doing that really hurts me, and it’s so unnecessary and heavy and damaging to add more pain to pain. There’s a real person behind your tweets. You spamming them with hateful, insensitive things is really not funny, is causing all of us pain, and doesn’t at all reflect the values I talk about."

July 4, 2019

Shawn and Camila are spotted at Nobu's Fourth of July party together, with a source at
Us Weekly claiming "they were sitting with each other, facing each other and look very intimate." Ooh.

July 5, 2019

Camila goes to one of Shawn’s shows and posts a bunch of gushy Instagram Stories:

Photo credit: Instagram Stories/Camila Cabello
Photo credit: Instagram Stories/Camila Cabello

July 6, 2019

Shawn denies dating Camila during a fan Q&A live stream, shaking his head when asked if they're together.

July 13, 2019

After being papped looking pretty cosy and cuddling on July 8, fans snap a quick video of Shawn and Camila kissing in a cafe.

July 28, 2019

Shawn and Camila are captured kissing on camera again, this time in Tampa, before being papped having a super ~steamy~ kissing session in the hotel swimming pool:

July 31, 2019

An Entertainment Tonight source claims Shawn and Camila’s summer fling could blossom into something longer term, because the two are “committed to working on a relationship. Shawn and Camila originally were just enjoying spending time together and having a summer fling. Shawn and Camila have really fallen for one another."

August 9, 2019

Camila drops the L-word while wishing Shawn a happy birthday on Instagram, writing: "Happy birthday to this magic human, I love you!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️." The pair hung out in New York to celebrate his 21st birthday, and were spotted holding hands, shopping and kissing.

This also happened at his birthday party:

August 26, 2019

Shawn and Camila performed 'Senorita' at the MTV VMAs, and it was preeeeetty romantic. Fans were desperately hoping for a kiss at the end, but instead had their screens fogged up from how steamy it all was.

We stan.

September 5, 2019

Camila talks about the fact that she's fallen in love for the first time this past year.

Speaking to Elle, Camila says: “Honestly, this past year and a half was the first time I really experienced falling in love with another person. "I think there is so much more depth to love when you know you are in it with another person. You have so much more to say — I think that’s what makes me emotional.”

When asked why she keeps her love life out of the public eye 9as much as possible anyway), she adds: “Love is the most sacred, precious thing to me. I want to always feel like my love is between me and that person, and never belonging to anyone else. As much as I love my fans and as much as I love people, I like to live my life as normally as possible. In a relationship, it makes me feel uncomfortable to invite everyone in on that.

That could be about anyone, right? But wait - she's then asked about Shawn specifically and she says: "I mean, I love him. We have always connected; we have the best time together."

12 September, 2019

Shawn Mendes and Camila Cabello posted a jokey kissing video, hitting back at trolls who have criticised the way they PDA. In the video uploaded to Shawn's Instagram account, he explains, "So we, erm, we saw like on Twitter and stuff, you guys saying stuff about the way we're kissing, and how it looks weird and that we kiss like fish." Camila nods along solemnly and agrees by saying, "Yeah, it really hurt our feelings." Shawn then continues on to say, "We just wanted to show you how we really kiss..." before grabbing Camila and beginning to erm, what can only be described as, suck her chin as she licks his face? Video here if you can stomach it (lol):

October 3, 2019

Camila Cabello just dropped the L-bomb while talking about Shawn Mendes, in the same conversation as calling him her 'pal'. Sorry but what are we meant to do with these mixed messages?

Speaking on Capital Breakfast, Camila started by explaining how nice it was working with Shawn. "You know, we’ve been friends for a really long time and we were kinda like we just didn’t… there was a period where we didn’t hang out as much just because we were both busy and this song was really fun because we got to just hang out again like we did on the song we did before – 'I Know What You Did Last Summer' – which was when we got really close.

"This was just like we were like “oh yay, we get to be pals and just hang out!"

Asked if the two were 'really happy', Camila added: "Yeah. Yeah, we’re pretty happy. I really, really love him a lot."

Photo credit: Jim Spellman - Getty Images
Photo credit: Jim Spellman - Getty Images

Sounds pretty serious to us.

November 11, 2019

Shawn and Camila headed along to a basketball game at the Staples Centre in Los Angeles, but rather than watch the LA Clippers take on the Toronto Raptors, their attention was totally elsewhere.

And by elsewhere, we mean the pair - the winners of 2019's most PDAs - spent most of the entire game cuddling and kissing.

The pair looked super happy together as they put on a very passionate display courtside. However, sadly we can't say the same for the woman sat next to the 'Stitches' singer who most definitely just wanted to watch the basketball.

Photo credit: Allen Berezovsky/Getty
Photo credit: Allen Berezovsky/Getty

20 November 2019

Camila reveals she had feelings for Shawn back in 2015, but didn't act on them because their lives were already complicated enough. "During 'I Know What You Did Last Summer' I really bonded with him as more than a friend,’ the 22-year-old told Rolling Stone.

"I think he did, too, but we were both really young, and he was experiencing the pressures of his career. I don’t think we knew what to do with those feelings. It was this awkward thing where we both liked each other, but we weren’t together. It was just weird."

The singer continued that it wasn't until the pair started work on 'Senorita' that the feelings came flooding back. "Our paths just didn’t cross in that way romantically until we started hanging out again and writing. For me, it just brought it back," Camila added.

Photo credit: Allen Berezovsky - Getty Images
Photo credit: Allen Berezovsky - Getty Images

25 November 2019

Camila Cabello and Shawn Mendes pick up the gong for Best Collaboration at the American Music Awards, and as well as performing a duet of 'Senorita', celebrated with some major PDA. These two are well and truly obsessed with each other.

Photo credit: Jeff Kravitz/AMA2019 - Getty Images
Photo credit: Jeff Kravitz/AMA2019 - Getty Images
Photo credit: Jeff Kravitz/AMA2019 - Getty Images
Photo credit: Jeff Kravitz/AMA2019 - Getty Images

28 November 2019

Camila Cabello responded to criticism of her and Shawn Mendes' PDA, saying she feels 'desensitised' to it because of the ongoing attention. Following the couple attending the AMAs together (where they picked up the award for Best Collaboration, performed 'Senorita' and packed on the affection), Camila appeared on Greg James's Radio 1 show.

During which, a listened shared their 'Unpopular Opinion' that "public displays of affection on Instagram are too much."

Camila replied, "Ouch. Well. I feel personally targeted. I feel personally attacked," before joking, "Yeah, PDA is terrible. I mean, kissing in public? I don’t even…."

The singer then agreed that PDA can be a little over the top, before adding that having her every move documented by paparazzi meant Instagram PDA didn't feel like such a big thing for her. "I know, you honestly get kind of desensitised to it," Camila added. "You’re like, well, might as well just make out on Instagram. Might as well!"

29 March, 2020

Camila and Shawn have been self-isolating together in Miami and last night they performed together for the IHeart Living Room Concert for America, which was hosted by Elton John. The pair sang a stripped back version of Camila's 'My Oh My' single. Live-streaming to the world, Shawn praised the "brave nurses and doctors out there working so hard every day…We’re thinking about you so much. Thank you for everything you’re doing."

While Camila added, "We love you, we're in this together, stay safe, stay healthy, stay kind and compassionate with your self and each other. Let’s pull through this together like we always do."

As well as entertaining us from home, they've also been spotted enjoying walks (and lots of PDA, obvs) around her local neighbourhood as they continue to self-quarantine together.

October 21st, 2020

After a quiet few months, Shawn revealed every single song he's written has been about Camila. Yep. Every. Single. Song.

In the trailer for Shawn's new Netflix documentary In Wonder, he made the sweet admission, though it sounds a lot like Camila wasn't particularly convinced.

"My song comes on the radio or something and I'm like, ‘Everything's about you. They're all, they have always been about you.' She goes, ‘What do you mean?' Like, they're all about you. Like every song I've ever wrote."

October 22, 2020

Hot on the heels of Shawn saying every song he's ever written was about Camila, she posted a very cute picture of them together. Camila had been away filming upcoming movie Cinderella alongside Idina Menzel and Billy Porter, but they're now back under one roof in Los Angeles and being all adorable again.

October 28, 2020

So it looks like Camila and Shawn are very much back on board the PDA train! Shawn shared a picture of them on Instagram looking all cute as they cuddled at home in Los Angeles. "Reina 🦋," Shawn captioned it, to which Camila replied, "Mi Rey." Translation: Queen/my king.

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