Bride Says ‘So Many People’ Wore White to Her Wedding Despite Strict Dress Code

A bride is questioning if wedding traditions are changing after several of her guests opted to wear white or a similar color to her wedding — which is a common taboo.

She shared in a post on Reddit’s “Bridezillas” forum that she recently had a wedding over the summer, and while she hadn’t thought much of it at the time, she realized several of her guests did not follow the “dress code” as she was looking back at her wedding photos.

“SO MANY PEOPLE wore white,” she wrote, before discussing the guests that she believed broke the rule. The list included her “mother-in-law” who she says “wore an entire white gown” with “a small flower pattern down the one side.” She noted that in photos of the couples’ dance with their parents, “the flower pattern isn't showing at all and she also looks like she was just in a wedding dress.”

She also noted that one of the couple’s friends wore a “cream dress with no pattern on it all” and a “friend's date” also wore a white dress with no pattern on it all. The wife of a friend of the bride’s father’s also wore what she described as a “very bridal” white dress that had “flower embroidery” that had “almost the same flowers” as the one on her dress.

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“My grandmother also wore a white dress with some multi-coloured flowers on it, and a pink cardigan,” the bride said, adding that it was “not nearly as bad, but not something I would ever wear to someone's wedding on my own.”

The woman noted that she hadn’t noticed this at the time because “the only thing I was looking at that day was my husband.” She also shared that she and her husband asked people to wear “formal” attire “and had a phrase at the bottom that said “please, no white!”

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“Is this just the new normal now? Are traditions fading? I don't know if this should bother me or not,” she wrote. In an update, she shared that she was sure “most people did it with absolutely no ill-intention,” but “it was just the fact that so many people seemed to not know/or care that made” her wonder.

Several commenters agreed that they felt that her guests broke proper wedding etiquette by wearing white, though several noted that her grandmother was okay as “no one is really going to mix up an older woman in a pink cardigan with the bride.” One person commented, “it is still not normal for wedding guests to wear white at weddings.”

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Another noted that in some cultures, it was "traditional" for the mother-of-the bride or groom to wear “white/ivory/cream,” though, they added that “a white gown that looks like a wedding dress sounds over the top.”

"It is not normal to wear a white dress," another chimed in, adding, "A dress with a white background and colored pattern is ok. The idea was so that no one else could be confused with the bride."

One person suggested that the bride event contact her photographer and asked them to "adjust the pictures and tint all of the white/cream dresses."

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