Bride cuts heartbroken dad from wedding because 'he doesn't deserve the honour'

Upset bride.
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Deciding on your wedding party can be one of the most challenging parts of the big day prep.

Anyone who's ever been in the throes of wedding planning knows the headache that comes with picking out bridesmaids, ushers, and all those special roles. For traditional brides, it's a no-brainer to have their dad walk them down the aisle.

But one wife-to-be is shaking things up by choosing not to have her father give her away because she feels he hasn't earned that "honour". As she's had a rocky relationship with him, she chose her mother to do the job instead.

On Reddit, the bride shared how she broke the news to her dad, who was left "heartbroken" by the decision. She posted: "I'm getting married in two months. My relationship with my father has always been complicated. My parents divorced when I was 10 and my father wasn't around much after that. He started a new family and I felt like I was no longer a priority. My mum raised me pretty much on her own."

She continued, revealing the emotional turmoil behind her decision, by saying: "As my wedding day approaches, my father has expressed how excited he is to walk me down the aisle. This is where things get complicated. My mum has been my constant support and I've always envisioned her walking me down the aisle. She was there for every important moment in my life while my dad was mostly absent.

"I had a heart-to-heart with my father and told him how I felt. I explained that I wanted my mum to walk me down the aisle because she's the one who's always been there for me. My father was heartbroken and accused me of punishing him for the past. He said he thought we had moved past everything."

The woman's siblings accused her of being "too harsh" on her dad, and told her she should "let him have his moment". Amid all the resentment, the bride still wants to "honour" her mother without wanting to "hurt" her father.

Commenters urged her to stay firm on her decision, stating that she was simply "rewarding" her mother rather than "punishing" her absent father.

Lending a voice to support her decision, one commenter said: "You are not punishing your father, but rather rewarding your mother. Why wouldn't she get to have her moment?"

And another reassured her by adding: "Your wedding your choice. Besides he wasn't there for you as a parent so why should he get the honour of walking you down?"