The idea of 'kissing' can feel a bit secondary school, can't it? Where you would stay up all night (until 10pm) lying on the sofa, limbs entangled with those of your crush, locking lips.
However in adulthood kissing can sometimes be forgotten, or brushed over, in favour of more x-rated acts, the kind our young teen selves couldn't really engage in or comprehend.
But a good kiss can turn your day around, it can warm your heart until it feels deliciously toasty in your chest and it can help you connect, or reconnect, with the owner of the lips you're locking.
Especially in the current climate, where social distancing looks set to stay the norm, we want to maximise our 'touch-time' with those we actually are in close contact with.
So how do we kiss better?
How to be a better kisser in five steps
Here are five ways to up your kissing game, whether you lack confidence with it or just want to up your efforts.
Stay in the moment
Kissing is all about connection and is pretty intuitive, if we just stay in the moment.
Instead of overthinking where it's going or how you're doing, just focus on the kissing sensations. Up the anti by rubbing your hands through your partner's hair or cupping their face, really indulging all the senses so that you can really stay present.
Don't overuse your tongue
Tongues are great, aren't they? They help us eat delicious food and have fulfilling conversations but they should be used in moderation when kissing.
Many people feel that a 'proper kiss' must involve a tongue at all times but actually starting out slow with no tongue and slowly introducing it as the kissing gets more passionate is a much better way then just jamming it in early doors.
You can then keep oscillating between no-tongue and tongue kissing to add variety.
Don't be afraid to mix it up a little when it comes to kissing. Loosen up and experiment with tugging on your partner's lower lip with your teeth mid-kiss or gently nibbling on their lip. You could even move away from their lips and kiss their neck or around their mouth to build tension and excitement.
Mirror your partner
Part of being a good kisser is about noticing what your partner is doing and moving in time with them. Mirroring your partner's movements is a great way to intensify the connection - copy kissing styles or take the lead yourself and wait for your partner to copy.
We don't need to tell you that kissing someone with coffee-breath or post-onion-riddled-meal is never going to be a pleasant experience, but taking the time to freshen up before you kiss will help you reach expert level.
Popping in a mint, brushing your teeth or chewing gum before you lean in is a great boost for your confidence and, it's so nice to kiss someone with minty fresh breath, right?
You could also mix it up a little but eating fruit before a kiss - the intense, sweet flavours and scents of certain fruits can set off your partner's pleasure centres.
You Might Also Like